Asking for Accountability
We are a group of people who have had various types of relationships with Jay M, both romantic and otherwise, who have experienced and witnessed their harmful and abusive behaviour. After many failed attempts asking for accountability directly, we are now asking the community for support.
Who are we?
We are a group of people who have had various types of relationships with Jay M, both romantic and otherwise. Three of us are ex partners who have survived harmful and abusive relationships with them for varying amounts of time. Four of us are ex-housemates of Jay’s who witnessed and experienced some of their past actions that have hurt people in our communities. Two of us directly shared sober spaces with Jay and first hand witnessed and experienced the behaviours that will be mentioned in this statement. The rest of us are members of the community who we have been called on to support us through this process; who have experience in conflict mediation and transformative justice work, but who do not have a personal history with Jay.
What you’ll find in this statement:
What you read in the following sections might be triggering and painful, and if that’s the case, we ask that you skip ahead to section 2 and 3, to learn about what has been tried in the past and what accountability looks like to us, before sharing this statement.